The Exercise: This week, endeavor to look at things and people with loving eyes. Notice any changes that occur in your eyes, face, body, heart/mind, visual field, and focus when you remember to look with loving eyes.
Discoveries: We know how to use loving eyes when we are falling in love, when we see a new baby or a cute animal. Why do we not use loving eyes more often? Doing this practice, we find that our usual way of looking at things is not loving. It is either neutral or somewhat negative and critical. We walk into a room and the first thing we notice is that the rug needs vacuuming. Or we greet a family member in the morning, and, instead of pausing to look him in the eye with love, we brush by, avoiding each other’s gaze and say something like, “You’ve got some toothpaste on your cheek.”